“Eat like you love yourself. Move like you love yourself. Speak like you love yourself. Act like you love yourself.”
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Learning to love everything you see back in the mirror without picking out flaws or saying you need to improve can be done. You may, of course, want to have certain goals and that is fine too if that is what you decide and want without regards to anyone else. I used to look in the mirror and get so depressed. Now I can look in the mirror with nothing but a smile on my face. Here are four things you must stop doing if you want to like what you see in the mirror:
1) Stop Fearing the Mirror. Some of you have not taken the time to look at yourself in the mirror. For some of you looking in the mirror can be terrifying. All you do is put yourself down or even avoid looking. This is where you will have to work on making the first steps to overcoming that fear of truly looking at yourself. Maybe start by on looking at yourself in a smaller mirror instead of full length. If you point out things on your face like your nose or forehead maybe start looking in the mirror at other attributes. Then once you get comfortable looking at yourself from the neck up then try moving toward a fuller length mirror. The idea here is to get acquainted with yourself by looking in the mirror. Look deep into your eyes and say hello. I know it sounds creepy and it might feel that way, but you’ll be surprised at how much you have or have not really know yourself.
2) Stop Saying Negative Things About Your Body. If you have made it through step one and you are ok looking in the mirror now it is time to stop that negative nasty voice within you. When I hated looking in the mirror I would comment negatively on my stomach or boobs. I would tell myself how saggy my boobs were and how squishy my stomach is and just how out of shape I was. Oh, and when I turned to the side forget it. I would hate my small flat butt and just turn away saying I give up I am not good enough. This is in my own home and in dressing rooms, I would notice even more flaws in my arms, back just everything. Dressing room mirrors I should have added to step one are going to be the next level after you get comfortable looking in the mirror at home. It wasn’t until I finally started seeing other women on social media with squishy and saggy boobs looking amazing in photos that I started to say positive things about my body. If you are not following our Instagram page @masterselflove please make sure to follow to get inspiration from how other women look and appear with bodies that are realistic. Then try saying positive things like start with these amazing 45 self-love and body image affirmations. Even if you really don’t truly feel or think positively right now about yourself or your body say it over time your thought patterns will change to positive patterns. It really works. The more positive things you say about yourself the more positive you become and yes the more negative you say to yourself the more negative you will feel. Which attitude will you choose?
3) Stop Being Afraid of Being Sexy. For some people being sexy is something foreign to them. Or maybe you think you can’t be sexy because of your body type or because you’ve never been told you were sexy. Everyone and I repeat everyone can be sexy. It is all about confidence and attitude. For a fun tip turn on a music video with a lot of sass such as Destiny’s Child-Bootylicious and just let go and dance glance at yourself in the mirror while you are doing it. Just feeling yourself and having fun in the moment will make you feel great about yourself. Most women have the idea that to feel sexy or look sexy is to become like the women in the videos like Beyoncé herself instead of being themselves. You start to compare her body with yours and then you put yourself down and then the sexy goes out the window. Instead, join Beyoncé and dance with her. The idea here is let loose and understand that you can be sexy it is all about your attitude. Other ways you can feel sexy is buying some sexy lingerie or to buy something you would feel uncomfortable wearing or something you think you couldn’t wear. Wear it just for you to view and flirt with yourself in the mirror. This way you can see yourself in a different light in a sexy light that you deserve to be in. If you are feeling daring schedule a boudoir photo shoot and have some fun with that and see how you come out in the pictures you will more than likely be surprised on how amazing, you will look and feel.
4) Stop Neglecting Your Body. For most women if we feel bad about ourselves the answer is always to lose weight and to starve ourselves. Educate yourself on how you can best nourish your body without restricting food. When you restrict food and don’t give your body the nutrients it needs you will feel like crap and have less energy. I have recently been intuitive eating and it is great for helping me eat more without any guilt. If you need more energy, make sure you are getting enough sleep. Not enough people are taking care of their sleep hygiene this is so important to feeling good about yourself. Next is making sure to get exercise. Moving your body will also make you feel energetic and your body will thank you for it. Walking is one of my favorite exercises and I try to do walk as much as possible throughout the day. Think of exercise and diet in a positive way not the way diet culture has made you feel about it.
I wanted to focus on more of the some of the tough things that we may face because I believe the only way out is through. You must tackle these rough obstacles which means evaluating yourself and your lifestyle. These are great ways to get started to self-awareness which helps promote a better understanding of yourself which will lead to a better relationship with yourself. It is worth it I promise!
Let me know what you struggle with in the comments in terms of loving your body and valuing yourself.